This blog is going raise a few eyebrows
from both sexes. Lift them high J I write this
for the married women trying to
understand what is going wrong in their marriage and would do anything to save
it. I am not a marriage counselor but I don’t need to married to understand men
and their needs. As a woman you have to understand the basic needs of a man
which must be met and when not provided is sought elsewhere. I will focus on various reasons which is my
concrete belief on answering this question.
When I was in University of Ghana I
witnessed some very interesting night activities either at my hostel or the
main campus. Almost every night (Friday was Ana Jo y3 d3) I would see from the
window of the 3rd floor young ladies getting into Jaguars, Mercedes
Benz, 4WDs and whatever luxury model car you can think of and trust me it
wasn’t their ‘Daddy’s’ car ;) . As she opens the car door, the interior car
light comes on and a pot-belly would be seen beneath the steering wheel. Man!
My flatmates and I would have a blast making jokes out of the night scene
enfolding before us.
Why would a married man risk ruining his
marriage for a campus girl who is half his age or the same age as his daughter?
Sex is the first thing that comes to mind. Either they (married men) are not getting any back home or they are tired of the same ‘soup’ dished out to them.
They have found something exciting that gets their blood boiling again
reminding them of their youthful times. I ask myself does a married woman
become complacent with sex in their marriage just because they have gotten what
they wanted all along? That shouldn’t be the case. As a woman you should be
aware of the importance of sex in your marriage. Even God said that as a woman
you shouldn’t forget your marital duty, your body is no longer yours but your
husband’s.
Learn new ways of making love to your
husband. Make your love making nights exciting. Find out what excites him and
play out his fantasy! Some men want to be dominated in bed whilst some want to
play ‘Teacher and Student’. You are laughing! I am dead serious. How do I know
this? I talk to men and I ask questions. I am preparing myself so that when I
also get my man I will know how to surprise him and make him beg for more!
Surprise him at work with some lunch, send love messages to him during his
stressful day at work and remind him what a ‘Superman’ he was last night. You
make him feel good! He will not look at
another woman when he is getting this at home. I was at a wedding today and the
Pastor told the bride, ‘Treat him like a King’! This applies to every aspect of
the marriage not just food. Let him be content and he will not starve! Never
starve your man of sex and think that you are ‘showing’ him, HE will SHOW you!
Wear
sexy lingerie even when you are dressed for work, send pictures during lunch
time of peek-a-boo images of the lingerie. Am I getting too bold? Look, lets be
real that is what gets a man hunting after you even when you are married! Thank
him after love-making. You might think I am being ‘someway’ but seriously just
show appreciation to him for making you feel good! If you don’t do it someone
will do it and he will leave.
Get online if you need to find some sex tips. Here are a few from Cosmopolitan magazine.
I will end here to continue on WHY MARRIED
MEN CHEAT 2. Look out for it!